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Last night I cried buckets.
Yes literally buckets. When I
woke up this morning I looked like a nasty bee had stung my eyes. Well good thing I was working from home
today, so no one would give me the weird look of why I looked that way.
So why did I waste precious tears last night? I was simply being unreasonable. At least there are three things I learned I should
stop doing because it is simply a waste of time. It is as if I am wasting away my life.
1.
Throw
out of the window the fear of missing out.
I live far away from mom and my siblings. Every time I see them together, hear stories
of what they have been doing, I feel a stab of pain. Sadness, envy or I am simply missing them? I don’t
know….. I feel I am missing out on a lot
of things. But when my mom, would asked
me to leave Singapore for good and come back to the Philippines, I cannot right
away say yes, because I fear I might miss out of the opportunity I have
here. It’s silly really. This feeling of being anxious because we are
missing out on something. But no matter
how hard we try to do everything, travel around the world or simply work and
have fun all day long we just could not simply do everything. Nobody can be at two places at the same time
right? So the lesson learned…This is the
moment and place that you are in. It may
not be perfect, but this is your choice.
Make the most of it. Take a deep breath;
enjoy and savor the moment you have. Be
in the now.
2.
Erase
that picture of how you think life is supposed to be.
Goals and plans are good. It
gives you direction and focus. And as
what the law of attraction says, painting a mental picture of the things you
want to achieve will cause the forces of the universe to conspire until
ultimately you will get what you want.
While I don’t think this is all entirely an abracadabra formula, however
we should strike a balance. When I was younger I have a clear picture of what
I want, of things I want to accomplish, of goals I want to reach. I even knew that I wanted a house with white
picket fences, not brown but white and dog to match it. But fast forward two decades later, I live in
an HDB flat, no dog, no white picket fences, but window grills to make sure I don’t
fall off from the 12th floor of the 15th story building I
am living. But I do have a roof above my
head, a comfortable bed and hot water for my early morning showers.
Yes we
discover detours along the way, a lot of detours. And what we have envisioned things would be turns
out to be how things are supposed to be in real life. Lesson learned? We cannot choose the music that life plays,
but we can always adjust our dance step to go with the beat of the music being
played.
3. You are not perfect. Nobody is so stop
berating yourself for not being one. Don’t
be too hard on yourself. Life is already
hard as it is without you conniving with it.
As a wife, a full time career woman and wannabe blogger, I want to do
everything. I want to be able to deliver
quality work. I want to have a spick and
span home. I want to cook fantastic dishes for hubby. I want to do music and craft. And on top of all these, I want to look
polished and vibrant all the time. So
what happens to me? I end with my bee
stung eyes, running nose and disheveled hair.
Lesson learned? Love yourself
and be proud of what you do. Own your
mistakes and be proud of it. Why? Because
it simply shows you are trying.
How about you, any lessons learned from your
silliness lately? At least we learned
yah? That’s what’s important.
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