"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"

Have you ever read or perhaps seen the movie of Alice in Wonderland?  This is the famous dialogue she shared with the Cheshire cat

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cheshire cat.

“I don’t much care where – “said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go” replied the cat.

From my personal experience it is true – in those times when I planned what I wanted to accomplish, I was most like to achieve what I set out to do. I guess the important key is to know what you want, and where you want to go and defining for yourself how to get there.

Not everybody would take the path you chose, and well you might get a few raised eyebrows, but at the end of the day, you know that success is arbitrary and so is failure. 

Focus on what you really want and what makes you truly happy. It could be your little boy’s laughter, the husband’s warm smile and tight embrace.  A day out in the ministry or a walk in the park…or simply as mundane as dark chocolates with a hot espresso.

However, at the same time, you have to strengthen your strengths. Living the life you want after all really means knowing yourself and the things that are important to you.

I often ask myself, “If I do not have to think about anything else, and money is not a question what do I want to have, do in my life?” And I often find myself answering in this line of thought…"I would like to be embrace in beauty, to look good, to feel good, and to be happy.”  I would then think of ways how I could manifest that feeling so others could feel that too.  It may sound “self-helpy”, but then again, you can never negate the power of the mind and positive thoughts can really lift a person’s mood.

I am not writing these from a life expert point of view, but I am articulating these thoughts for the benefit of no other than myself.  Because mind you, I can expertly drown in my own drama and I could really make mountains out of molehills you see….   

I guess the bottom line is, do not be like Alice.  Know what you want. Be like my 4 year old.  Last week he wanted McDonalds for his weekend treat, and just this morning he told me, he wanted 5-dollar pizza for this week’s weekend treat.  Such a tiny human being but can politely (“Please mommy, I want 5-dollar pizza, thank you”) and firmly tell me what he wants.  I guess it works for him, because he seems very happy.  Sans the tantrum moments when he is sleepy or tired, he is always either laughing or singing. 

So which way ought you go from here? Well, dream a little, plan a little, decide what you want, shutdown that laptop and go out there live that life.

 

Have a lovely weekend you all!